Posting this because recent Tumblr flareups have made it clear that it needs reiterating. Feel free to use this graphic widely.
[A circle graph titled ‘How folks come to know the magnitude of your asshattery’: A small yellow wedge indicates ‘That you fucked up in the first place’ a slightly larger orange wedge indicates ‘The specific manner in which you fucked up and its magnitude’ and the entire rest of the circle is filled by a wedge in red that indicates ‘How you reacted when you were told that you fucked up’]